How to approach the situation.

[Xeno_72]

My 2 friends mentioned me to one of their friends. It started out with me prank calling her (at the time i had no idea who she was) but my friends and I were bored so we decided to do that. She didnt pick up but i left a message. She never calls back but found out that it was my friends who told me to prank call her. They started talking about me and she became interested. We started to IM each other and call each other. (We dont attend the same college but our colleges are only 20 minutes away by car). We know how we look like through facebook but because of school and other stuff we havent met yet.

We set a date to meet but its with a group of people (about 5 all together) to eat out and I was wondering how I should approach the situation. She knows my personality through our chats so we arent complete strangers other than the fact we havent met face to face yet. Should i focus on her the whole time? try to make side chats while my other friends talk to each other? JW. Thanks for you help.

[All-Night John]

Pics?

[Rayo]

Just act normal whatever that means, unless you wanna tap it, then flirt.

Simple, ok.

[EvilWall]

You have to mount her first. If she's taller than you use a small foot stool.

[Oomba]

Group theory. Focus as little on her as you possibly can without being rude. Let her see how you are with people rather than her seeing how you are with women you're interested in(seems more sincere), and make her fight for your attention. An hour or so in start giving her more and more attention. Flirt, build attraction. Close.

[MoteLife]

ok i actually agree with oomba this time.

[Xeno_72]

thanx for the advice oomba. I LOVE ur sig btw.

[Ender]

Oomba's post is the correct pathway.

[H.A.W.G.]

Very good gameplan Oomba

[Oomba]

Groups are a very good way to build comfort. You can show how you are around friends(which they love, shows alot about a person), theres never and awkward silence, both of you will feel alot more comfortable and natural than in a one-on-one type deal, and you can allow her to try to get your attention rather than trying to get hers. Women love the hunt as much if not more then men, so the best way is to wait for them to fall into your "trap". They feel like they've caught you and thats an incredible rush.

[Xeno_72]

now i was wondering. My first encounter with her will be NEXT friday, the 6th. We've been talking a lot every night and i really want to meet her before the 6th, for lunch downtown. Should i ask her or wait and see her on the 6th with a group?

[MoteLife]

dude, wait for the group... there is always that chance that she could be insane in person and may be your worst nightmare. this way you have an open slot to leave. you should never meet the chick you want to go out with alone. unless you met her at a party or something, in that case none of these rules apply because you already met her.

[Absolute Bollocks]

I agree with MoteLife. If it all goes bad you need an out. Also a good test is if you are with a big group and she is not leaving you alone, being all naggy and needy right off the bat... RUN, do not walk away from her. I don't care how hot she may be.

How hot is she? lol

[Xeno_72]

she is pretty damn smokin. I talked to her some more she was up for the one on one lunch and i think its gonna go well.

P.S. shes gives so many suttle hints such as (i was out this weekend with my gilfriends downtown and it was fun, then i saw some couples waking by and i felt like im missing out) Id try to approach the situation normally, but i mean wat can i say to that without telling her, ill go with u next time, we'll be a couple, cause i know that reply isnt any good. give me one date with her and then this will al change. ill update once we go out for lunch this week.

[Oomba]

That was intended as a hint, but in the back of her mind without her knowing she was testing you. A response like that would've made you fail the test. They don't like it when you're over eager about dating them. Play it cool, the attachment and shit can start when you guys have been a couple for a while if it turns to that. Its got to seem to her like shes just a little more into you than you are into her at all times.

[Xeno_72]

sweet thanx for the help oomba

[Somewhere In There]

You really don't want to come off as if all you're interested in is sex (regardless of if you are or are not), but girls are also commonly turned off by too little attention to the details. There's a butter zone somewhere in between the two that will end in ACTION. Hope ya get some man :D

[Oomba]

You really don't want to come off as if all you're interested in is sex (regardless of if you are or are not)

In my experience, its much better in the long run to let it be known what you're after. Nobody likes being led on, and you should be upfront with what you want or it will just cause you a lot of problems later on.

It is important to pick up on subtlety. The most successful guys are the ones who are able to see through the "code" women use to let you know what they're thinking. They will never tell you that they want to fuck you (unless they're really ugly, really drunk, or really slutty. Any of those I'd stay away from), however they will drop extremely subtle hints in order to gauge your response. What you reply back determines what you get from them. They want you to know that they want to hook up, but they also want to know that you wont think they're sluts afterwards. Too many guys never succeed with women because they don't even know they failed this test.