What do you think your children will be like?

[Blank]

What values will you teach them?

How do you went them to turn out?

I want to hear how people imagine their current or future kids.

[Tom the First]

I hope that my children will be able to make their own intellectual decisions in life, whatever they choose to do. I hope that they will maintain and improve upon the progressive mindset that I have, but I won't call it a loss if they don't. One of my highest hopes is that my children will be interested in music as much as I am, if not more.

[Arandar]

I hope that no one on these forums ever has children.

[JoEDigiTECH]

I hope that no one on these forums ever has children.

Dood, why do you have to be such a douche?

[Gene Starwind]

If they have common sense and they get a college degree in something useful, that'd be perfect.

Common sense seems to be not so common anymore.

[Flavius]

Wow. I could probably turn this reply into a veritable laundry list, but just off the top of my head...

Values I Try To Instill In My Child On A Daily Basis:

1. The value of education - In this world of pop-culture, anorexic, party-going divas, I think it's far too easy for children to get the wrong idea about what it means to be a success and how to achieve it. Getting plastic surgery, eating next to nothing & acting slutty might work for Paris Hilton, but that's only because she doesn't have to work for anything...daddy's footing the bill. Looks fade and starving yourself is a great way to lose precious years of your life, but no one can ever take your education away from you.

2. Respect for yourself and others - It's easy to say that you respect yourself, but it's another thing to show it. Knowing that you have all of the potential in the world to be whomever you choose to be is the first step. Do you know how many kids fail in their lives simply because they've convinced themselves they couldn't do it...before they've even tried? It's sad. I'm a firm believer in reciprocity as well, and so long as you show respect to others, it's more than okay for you to demand respect from them.

3. The value of a dollar - I like to spend like anyone else, but when I spend, I know where the money's coming from: my bank account. How many of these kids raised in $60 Nike toddler sneakers or $100 designer kid's clothes know the value of what's on their feet/person/etc? It's okay to want the best for your child, but buying the best of everything isn't going to automatically make your child the best. In fact, many times, it just makes your kid an inconsiderate, spoiled, little jerk. My parents could have easily went out and just purchased my first car for me, or bought all of the designer clothes that I wanted, but they didn't. I worked all summer and saved like a sonofabitch for my first car, and I put in extra time at McDonald's and the baseball card shop where I worked when I wanted my first pair of Jordan's. I feel guilty for some of the thoughts I had about them back then, because I sure as hell understand it now...and I will be eternally grateful to them for the lesson.

There are others (ask the tough questions; facing your fears; etc), but the truth is you can only do so much. I just want my daughter to be a good person and comfortable with who she is. More than likely, she won't turn out exactly the way that I want her to...but that's okay. Everyone has flaws, and if it's a serious one, then at least I can say that I've tried.

[Kir0s]

I want my kids to be like me, minus the no father around cause he died. Though I was never deprived of anything (which hurt because I was a spoiled brat until 8th grade), I still wish I had that father figure there, ya know? So I want my kids to be smart like their pops, handsome and have a good sense of humor cause I will rip them verbal new ones with my jokes.

Oh and basically everything Flav said.

Dood, why do you have to be such a douche?

Because his daddy touched him at night.

[Blank]

I'd really like for my kids to be able to understand that becoming older doesn't make life less fun. I want my kids to continue to live long and happy lives as they see me growing older and still preserving my youth. I really don't want to be that crabby father who's stuck in his old times and can't function or understand new technology and trends. I want to be able to relate to my kids by what they're going through at all times.

[Blank]

I hope that no one on these forums ever has children.

Get the ever-living fuck out of my threads. I'm so sick and tired of your bullshit. If you hate this community or have such a negative outlook on all of us, Blackwolf should finally give you the honor of banning you for good.

I thought I understood you just a bit Arandar. That comment is it. Fuck off.

[Ezekiel]

Personally, I don't want kids. But seeing my little brother Alastair get his first steps into the world, it does make hopeful that there are things I can teach him.

What those things are, well, I'll say later. This typing business is keeping my ladyfriend from her naptime.

[Blank]

Personally, I don't want kids. But seeing my little brother Alastair get his first steps into the world, it does make hopeful that there are things I can teach him.

What those things are, well, I'll say later. This typing business is keeping my ladyfriend from her naptime.

Sex her. ^_^

[-Beck-]

My children will be non-existant. It's sort of sad to say, especially since I'm the only male left in my bloodline that can have children. My grandfather is simply too old, my father has had a vasectomy, and I'm the only boy my parents had.

C'est la vie.

[agn]

I hope that no one on these forums ever has children.

That's just his subconscious informing us that he shouldn't reproduce. We already knew that though.

[Rayo]

My children will be non-existant. It's sort of sad to say, especially since I'm the only male left in my bloodline that can have children. My grandfather is simply too old, my father has had a vasectomy, and I'm the only boy my parents had.

C'est la vie.

Find a nice jewish woman Beck

[Kel]

I'm with Erde right now, as in not wanting kids, but i'm sure that will change once I find some perfect woman.

But, if I do have kids, I want to teach them freedom of thought, how to respect themselves and others, to never lie or be selfish, to respect what they love, patience, and willingness... to stand up for what they will become, and for what, those who they care about, stand up for.

Also to love the only thing in this world that actually matters...



Bicycles :D

[Arandar]

That's just his subconscious informing us that he shouldn't reproduce. We already knew that though.

At least if I had kids I wouldn't beat them because they didn't believe everything I said about politics like you.

Maybe I should rewrite what I said. I hope some of you never have children. While some of you may make good parents, and some of you currently do, there are those among you that I would hope never have kids of your own. Note how I never said that if I had kids they would be the best.

I love though how I make a sarcastic remark and everyone hates me for it, yet if anyone else had made the same remark it would be laughed at and followed up with three pages of one-liner come backs.

Its so easy to have double standards while being in the "in crowd" isn't it?

[Flavius]

I don't want to derail this thread, Arandar, but since you brought it up...

This is one of the most accepting communities that I've been a part of on the web. I think your big problem is that you try too hard to distance yourself from everyone else. Being an individual, as opposed to a sheep, is definitely a good thing...but when you're blatantly doing it just for the sake of being different, well, you're going to encounter the sort of responses you're seeing now (and have been seeing for quite some time).

There's a big difference between exhibiting tact, and blindly following someone else's lead.

[Burr]

Whether I had any would be up for my partner to decide. It's not a particular goal or dream of mine, but having considered it I'd definitely be willing to be a father if the opportunity arose and we could support a child together.

I guess the main thing I'd emphasize among all the usual important things is to have a mature, introspective approach towards life instead of a stunted, purely dogmatic one. I'd want a relationship with my child where I can mostly just trust them to do the right thing because I've shown them firsthand instead of having to dictate it to them, and if they ever make a mistake or get in trouble as we all do, they can come to me first and I'll always help them. As long as they are a good person at heart, whatever they accomplish is icing on the cake. I just want to give love and be loved. That's all I need from a son or daughter.

Of course I'd also just be happy being a DINK. :p

[Blank]

I think it's also because of your long reputation of going out of the way to be a douche.

[Nitrousoxide]

Haha! Me? A parent? I'd make for a terrible boyfriend, let alone a father.

[Emptythought]

This is something i've thought about quite a bit since it's been brought up(both jokingly, and not) among my friends, and honestly, think about it. you always end up being to some extent a copy of both the parent that was the same gender as you, and the one who spent more time with you. unless you realize early on that you're going to be a complete fuckup if you're like your parents and start trying to be different, or the exact opposite.

quite a few people i know prove this point beautifully, and i know i'm quite a bit like my own father(and primarily because i wanted to be nothing like my mother). i didn't even notice this until i started looking at my friends and their parents, at which point i came to a horrible realization.

i should probably never fucking have children.

seriously, they would at best be as fucked up as i am and the world doesn't need more people like me. as much as certain people might not think i'm a fuckup, or might think that i'm not in a position to judge that, or that i shouldn't say it.. fuck, i am.

another perfect way to prove this point is that my mother tried to be the exact opposite of her psycho abusive parents, and ended up just being psychotic half the time and getting ready to be psychotic the other half of the time.

so yea, my children would either be skipping school for 2 years and posting on 4chan at 4:49 in the morning every day, or just in jail or turning tricks by the age of 15. and honestly, i think i'm too young to even consider how the fuck it would work out realistically.

[Erin]

I've been uninteresting in having children ever since my high school girlfriend tried to convince me to get pregnant. I also then realized that she was crazy and I needed to run like hell.

However, if I ever do have children, I would raise them like my mother did my sister and I. We were never once hit, but she instilled in us manners, morals, and a sense of humor.

I would just want my children to be well-behaved, polite, well-spoken, and to have the same close relationship that my mother and I have.

[Kir0s]

Haha! Me? A parent? I'd make for a terrible boyfriend, let alone a father.

Pfffft, Nitro you are a man magnet...

[EvilWall]

I kind of want kids too, but haven't found the right female I would like to partner up with in order to make them.

[-Beck-]

Find a nice jewish woman Beck

The last thing that I need is someone as maladjusted and eccentric as I am, and THEN give the world the children such a thing would create.

[Oomba]

I'm naming my kids after Greek gods. Because, c'mon, they're gonna be my kids. Might as well be Greek gods.

They will be the egotistical douche bags who you hated growing up because you knew they were better than you.

They will fuck your kids' girlfriends.

And if they are anything like me, they'll be really smart. If they're like their mom, they'll be asian with big tits.

[Arandar]

NOW can I be given the benefit of the doubt please when I said what I said?

[Magnum 50 Cal]

NOW can I be given the benefit of the doubt please when I said what I said? + 1 here

[MoteLife]

Dood, why do you have to be such a douche?

he's bitter because he will never be able to have kids, because he's such a douche.

i want my kids to know that it's ok to be themselves, to have a good value for family and friends, as well as for learning and expression. i also want them to know that they have to work for something, that nothing will fall into their hands. they should also know that imagination and a sense of humor is very important.

magnum how does arandar's dick taste?

[JoEDigiTECH]

Besides a lot of stuff that has already been said, I want to teach my daughter to not only learn from her mistakes but also from the mistakes of others. I never understood the whole "learn the hard way" mentality, I always tried to learn the smart way.

[True]

Dood, why do you have to be such a douche?
Lets just hope he never has kids, lol.

- I defintely hope that my future child(ren) take on some of my better trates, improve on them and identify their own good trates.

- I'd hope to be as good of a parent as mine have been.

My children will be non-existant. It's sort of sad to say, especially since I'm the only male left in my bloodline that can have children. My grandfather is simply too old, my father has had a vasectomy, and I'm the only boy my parents had.

C'est la vie.

I'm kinda in the same situation. I have my moms maiden name while her and my sister have my fathers name (my REAL last name, long story) and I'm the last male to have that name (that I know of) in my family. I do have a younger female cousin who has it but if she gets married it'll change.

[Reffy]

I have no idea what my feelings will be about having a family in the next 20 years, but as of now...the idea is daunting.

As a parent I see myself as I am whenever I'm responsible for other people.
I set very strict guidelines. The guidelines are basic and easily met with effort and of course I'll do anything in my power to help you reach these guidelines, but it's ultimately up to the person. Eg: grades. As long as these guidelines are met I'm very trusting and the kid can do just about whatever he/she wants.
However if you do not meet such guidelines I turn from trusting and nice dad to asshole, "the punisher" dad.

As a child gets older these guidelines become smaller and smaller, but more significant.

What's has made me successful in the past, using this very simple yet effective strategy, is that I'm very consistent in my turning into "the punisher." If someone fucks up they can all ways expect it, so meeting these guidelines become a lifestyle and not a nagging suggestion.

Other than that I think it's impossible and a bit naive to think you can plan how your kid is going to be. Hell, I wouldn't want to do that, I want them to be themselves. But because of the attention that I would feel obligated to give every child I only plan on having 2 kids if I ever did have a family.

[True]

Yeah, I'm thinking 2 and done myself.

[jwg]

I'll keep it short and sweet and just say I don't want my kids to be assholes.

When the time comes, I'm thinking 2 will be enough. Although who knows what I'll be thinking in my 40s and 50s, so maybe that number could go higher.

[Blank]

It's weird to think I may be having kids in 5 years.

[BBboy20]

Depends if you are presuing something that will take around different places, or you just end up in the same place for the rest of your life.

Technically, I shouldn't have children (Nor my brother though I'm afraid he's going to do something "stupid" one day) due to our genetic problems.

Majority of us either aren't adults or not old enough to truly know what an responsible adult is like...and even now, we still don't know if we'll keep our same "young" personalities even so we realize we don't want to deal with old crabbyness that our precursors never really cared about. Being a responsible adult can also hand-in-hand in raising a child(s).

[True]

It's weird to think I may be having kids in 5 years.

My mom has started with me about getting married and kids. Kinda caught me off guard. I kinda wanted to have atleast one kid in my 20's but not until I was like 28 or something, so that's about 2 years from now.

[Blank]

Personally, I think I'll have my first kid around 25 or 26. The way things are with me and my girl, it wouldn't seem unlikely.

I don't want to bring the kid into rough financial situations though either. I have got to be careful.

[Weeds]

I hope that no one on these forums ever has children.

i already have two.

:p

[EvilWall]

There are people on this forum, that I hope have kids. So the awesome can continue.

[Biggulp]

Yeah idk I think I would be an awesome father although I do act very immature at times. If I were to have kids with my present girlfriend wich wont happen till im almost 30 they would end up being the most normal kids ever. Im extremely laid back and easy going but I need to know whats going on,I get annoyed by randomness. My girlfriend on the other hand is always stressing out about stuff and is total randomness.

I'm guessing that those will kinda cancel out eachother and Ill end up with a cool kid(s). I would never push my kids to play games either but I would love that they became interested in them as much as me and my girlfriend are, I mean thats easy Christmas shopping and It will be like getting double the gifts.

[All-Night John]

I just hope my boys can swim.

[Flavius]

i already have two.

:p

Why the hell did I think you had three???

Perhaps I'm getting you confused with one of the other old fogeys, though. :p

[asmoron]

Considering how much I get laid my children will be non-existent. Not that I'm the type of person who should really be an influence on a child to begin with.

[BBboy20]

There are people on this forum, that I hope have kids. So the awesome can continue....No...just...mostly no.

[Blank]

...No...just...mostly no.

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[True]

I just hope my boys can swim.

Ain't that the truth, lol.

[BBboy20]

I typed "mostly", Blank. >=/

[SageClaw]

i already have two.


Why the hell did I think you had three???

Perhaps I'm getting you confused with one of the other old fogeys, though. :p Don't look at me... I only have one and I have papers to prove it, just in case you were thinking he was Weeds' 'missing' third child. : )

[Blank]

How old is your kid Sage?

[SageClaw]

Just turned 17.

And in keeping with this thread, let's just say he is turning out to be a very decent human being and one of my best friends.

I don't think I could have asked for anything more.

[Blank]

Just turned 17.

And in keeping with this thread, let's just say he is turning out to be a very decent human being and one of my best friends.

I don't think I could have asked for anything more.

Best friends? Is he adopted?

[SageClaw]

Best friends? Is he adopted? Heh.. nice but no. You have to love your children, you can't help it but nothing says you have to like them. I happen to like my son a lot. He's a neat person all on his own, outside of the bias of me being his father.

[Blank]

I wasn't trying to make fun, I have the same kind of relationship with my dad. It's just the way you worded it that made me think he was adopted.

[SageClaw]

I wasn't trying to make fun, I have the same kind of relationship with my dad. It's just the way you worded it that made me think he was adopted. Pshhh... no worries... it was a funny line, intentional or not. : )